In this week’s episode of Whole Woman Wednesday, you’ll learn a simple exercise to feel powerful and strong, while also feeling loving and compassionate.
In the same way that women have the innate ability to exert Herculean strength while also softening and relaxing when giving birth, women have a unique ability to hold paradoxes–like power and compassion–in their being.
However, I believe women also struggle with feeling powerful and compassionate, because once we find our power, there is so much to be angry about that compassion can be difficult to summon.
The wounded masculine power that has infiltrated our culture for far too long is reaching new heights and exposure, thus giving rise to a surge of women’s uprising, power, and fury.
This quote clenches my jaw and I feel choked up every time I read it. It seems like we are facing infuriating examples of unhealthy masculine power every day. Whether it’s gun control, birth control, sexual assault, or you name it.
I’m fucking furious, too. We all should be.
The problem, however, is when we hold on to that anger and expect the wounded masculine to hear us and change. They won’t. Trust me, I’ve tried. Anger is not power, it’s poison.
We need to use anger for its motivating properties, and then let it go and try a different approach. As the Buddhist saying goes, “Holding onto anger is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.”
From a women’s health perspective, meeting masculine energy with more masculine energy can wreak havoc on our hormones, not to mention our mental health. Dr. Christiane Northrup and Dr. Libby Weaver, two of my greatest mentors, talk about this phenomenon at length in their books and TEDx talk.
Hormonal disharmonies aside, asserting power in a masculine way in effort to transform masculine power, robs us of our effectiveness and any hope of true transformation.
Try today’s exercise the next time you are feeling deeply triggered by someone in your life or a public figure, and then take action. You will find your actions to be much more effective and far-reaching than they would have been had you acted from a place of feeling furious or victimized.
We have an urgent responsibility to transform and heal the wounded masculine and the wounded feminine by creating a new model of leadership that combines power and strength, with compassion and love.
Every time you go against the grain and model a new way of being for your children, friends, family, and even acquaintances, you are a leader. Healthy leadership, that incorporates positive masculine and feminine values, starts with each of us in the daily interactions we have with the people in our lives.
Just imagine the world-changing ripple effects that start with you.
I am reading two books right now that support this new model of compassionate leadership and discovering your feminine power, respectively: Braving The Wilderness by Brené Brown, and Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer. I highly, highly recommend them both.
Now, let’s smash the patriarchy. Compassionately. 😉
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Thanks for watching, and thank you for taking steps to heal yourself so that together we can heal the world.
Much love and gratitude. XO
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