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Posted by on Nov 15, 2011 in Personal Development | 16 comments

Lesson Learned From My Husband, A Red Caboose, And No Internet

Lesson Learned From My Husband, A Red Caboose, And No Internet


Last Friday, I married my high school sweetheart and we went on a mini-honeymoon for the weekend. Usually, when we leave town I take my computer, my iPhone, my day planner–my work life–with us.

The beauty of having my own practice, and an online business is that I get to design my own hours and work from anywhere.

Which can be a blessing and a curse.

It being our honeymoon and all, I decided to “unplug” and bring only my Kindle, and the newest issues of Vogue and Vanity Fair for entertainment. (When was the last time I read a magazine cover to cover?!)

We went to Strawberry Springs in Steamboat (If you haven’t been, GO.) where we stayed in their nicest accommodation, The Caboose.

It’s literally a caboose, still on the railroad tracks.

To my surprise, we had running hot water (yay!), a kitchen (yay!), our own bathroom and shower (double-yay!), a gas fireplace and solar-powered lights! Suddenly my picture of “roughing it” was turning out to be pretty rosy.


There was, however, no cell phone reception and no internet.

At first I felt uncomfortable, constantly reaching to check my phone or my email — or even the time!

But, after a day or so I finally decided to just relax. I knew the world would not fall apart with out me, and it didn’t.

During a lengthly conversation in front of the fire one night with my husband (?!), I realized how hard-wired I am to fill every moment of every day with something, be it work, computer-time, socializing, etc.

(Mom, if you’re reading this, I know you tried to tell me this my whole life, and you’re right!)

Javram quite frankly told me that I need to slow down. I could almost see my mom standing next to him, nodding in agreement.

Filling my days gives me a sense of accomplishment, and I suddenly realized that my intense drive to accomplish things comes from a deep-seated belief that if I don’t make something happen myself, then it won’t happen.

I find myself doing more forcing than allowing. Ah-hah!

To commemorate this light-bulb moment, Javram helped me think of a new affirmation or mantra to tell myself as often as I can to try to shift this pattern of over-doing. You can use it, too, if you like:

“I allow.”

That’s it. Super simple. Whenever I start to feel like I’m trying to force something to happen, I stop and take a deep breath and say to myself, “I allow.”

Try it! It works! 🙂

The next time you’re feeling resistance to having more money, love, health–anything–in your life, try saying this to yourself and see what happens.

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  1. Josie,
    I, like I am sure so many others, could have written something very similar. I have forced things very often and am just recognizing that. I always thought it was determination. I recently learned a mantra that has worked well for me, when I slow down enough to use it. “All of life comes to me with Ease, Joy and Glory.”

    I’ll be looking for your next nutrition seminar.

    • Thanks for your comment, Debbie! I love that mantra, I will definitely try it. Looking forward to having you in my next nutrition program, I will send out info soon. 🙂

  2. What a perfect honeymoon!! It’s funny how you always know exactly what your mother would say 🙂
    I am really happy for you & Javram . . . you two are good for each other.

    • Thanks, Mom! Love you XO

  3. Congrats Josie! So happy for the two of you!

    • Thanks, Desiree! 🙂

  4. Congratulation Josie and Javram in your recent commitment to marriage.
    The photos are exceptional and beauty is all around.
    I ALLOW – the most profound response to the universe of Love’s Call. May it fulfill itself as Light on Love’s Way for you and all mankind.

    • Thank you, Joy! It’s so nice to hear from you, and what a beautiful comment. <3

  5. Wow! Thank you so much for posting this…. I find myself constantly needing to DO something instead of just enjoying the quiet moments. . I am going to try this mantra and new way of thinking right now! Congratulations on your marriage and love the pictures:)

    • Thank you, Stephanie! I’m so glad you enjoyed this post. Let me know how it goes. 🙂

  6. Congratulations to you and Javram. I am so happy for you and enjoyed reading your blog about you honeymoon and seeing your wonderful wedding pictures. Wishing you both a long and happy life together.

    • Thanks, Becky!! 🙂

  7. Very Nice, Josie. Thank you for sharing. Your wedding pictures are absolutely amazing. I have actually looked at Keri Doolittle’s work. She is fantastic and someone to aspire to. Thanks for the look! Loved it!

    • Thanks, Stephanie! Glad you enjoyed the pics! I thought you would appreciate them. And I loved looking at your blog! You are also very talented. 🙂

  8. As always, Josie, your lessons teach what I most need to hear. I Allow. Thank you.

    Many, many blessings on your and your wonderful husband as you begin this journey together!

    • Thank you, Sharon! I am so glad 🙂

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