Lesson Learned From My Husband, A Red Caboose, And No Internet
Last Friday, I married my high school sweetheart and we went on a mini-honeymoon for the weekend. Usually, when we leave town I take my computer, my iPhone, my day planner–my work life–with us.
The beauty of having my own practice, and an online business is that I get to design my own hours and work from anywhere.
Which can be a blessing and a curse.
It being our honeymoon and all, I decided to “unplug” and bring only my Kindle, and the newest issues of Vogue and Vanity Fair for entertainment. (When was the last time I read a magazine cover to cover?!)
We went to Strawberry Springs in Steamboat (If you haven’t been, GO.) where we stayed in their nicest accommodation, The Caboose.
It’s literally a caboose, still on the railroad tracks.
To my surprise, we had running hot water (yay!), a kitchen (yay!), our own bathroom and shower (double-yay!), a gas fireplace and solar-powered lights! Suddenly my picture of “roughing it” was turning out to be pretty rosy.
There was, however, no cell phone reception and no internet.
At first I felt uncomfortable, constantly reaching to check my phone or my email — or even the time!
But, after a day or so I finally decided to just relax. I knew the world would not fall apart with out me, and it didn’t.
During a lengthly conversation in front of the fire one night with my husband (?!), I realized how hard-wired I am to fill every moment of every day with something, be it work, computer-time, socializing, etc.
(Mom, if you’re reading this, I know you tried to tell me this my whole life, and you’re right!)
Javram quite frankly told me that I need to slow down. I could almost see my mom standing next to him, nodding in agreement.
Filling my days gives me a sense of accomplishment, and I suddenly realized that my intense drive to accomplish things comes from a deep-seated belief that if I don’t make something happen myself, then it won’t happen.
I find myself doing more forcing than allowing. Ah-hah!
To commemorate this light-bulb moment, Javram helped me think of a new affirmation or mantra to tell myself as often as I can to try to shift this pattern of over-doing. You can use it, too, if you like:
That’s it. Super simple. Whenever I start to feel like I’m trying to force something to happen, I stop and take a deep breath and say to myself, “I allow.”
Try it! It works! 🙂
The next time you’re feeling resistance to having more money, love, health–anything–in your life, try saying this to yourself and see what happens.
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