After reading “3 reasons you’re not infertile,” I was impressed to share my own fertility story, as it may help others in their journey for motherhood.
I always thought that getting pregnant would be an easy task, especially since my sisters and Mom have had no problems conceiving a child. In fact, my sister once told me that all her husband had to do was look at her, and it worked. After being married for a number of years, my husband and I decided to give it a try. Like I expected, it didn’t take too long (about 2 months) before we were on our way to be parents.
But things didn’t quite go as expected. After only 2 months of being pregnant, I had a miscarriage. I was devastated, and feelings of worthlessness crept into my life. This was only the beginning of a whirlwind of emotions that I would go through for the next year.
It seemed that all around me I had to hear about other women talk about their wonderful pregnancy and childbirth experiences. To make things worse, many of my close friends and family would often come up to me and ask something to the effect of “you have been married for awhile now, when are you going to have a baby?” I know they meant well, but it was very hard to keep a positive attitude with what I was going through.
I thought it would be fairly easy to get pregnant again, after all it didn’t take much the first time, but I was wrong. I felt more and more isolated and lonely as it seemed that everyone around me was having a baby, but I could not. I became envious and even a little resentful as time passed and I couldn’t get pregnant.
I love this statement. After months and months of not getting pregnant and feeling depressed, I had a change of heart and mind. I realized that perhaps the timing was just not right for me. Instead of focusing on the negative, I began to look at how great my life really was–a caring husband, a comfortable home, I had blessings all around me. Instead of responding negatively to the all too often asked question of “are you pregnant yet?” I started to use the question to share something humorous or interesting about my condition. This helped take the pressure off of me and helped me appreciate other’s concern for me. I looked for the positive in everything, and oh how it changed my life.
After an entire year after the miscarriage, I was overjoyed when I found out that I was pregnant again. Why did it take so long? It really does take time to create a fertile environment, in both body and mind. Once I changed my attitude and stopped dwelling so much in the negative, I became pregnant. Attitude and timing is everything.
About the author: Brittney is a home remedy enthusiast and enjoys writing about holistic and alternative treatments. She has helped many women suffering from bacterial vaginosis by providing information, support and bacterial vaginosis treatments on her blog at http://www.bacterialvaginosiscenter.com.
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